5 ideas to stop comparing yourself to others

A common recurring theme I see crop up with career returners and those with a break on their CV is the tendency to slip into 'comparisonitus' mode.

Judging your progress against others. Worrying that you are falling behind. Questioning what they are doing that you are not? Asking, am I good enough?

As I think about comparisonitus here are my thoughts and action ideas for you:


  • Comparisons are always unfair. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others

  • Comparisons rob us of precious time. We each get 86,400 seconds each day. And using even one to compare yourself to another is one second too many.

  • You're too unique to compare fairly. Your value, skills and strengths are entirely unique to you and they can never be properly compared to anyone else.

  • There's no end to the possible number of comparisons. The habit can never be overcome by attaining success. There will also be something, or someone, else to compare to.

  • Comparison puts focus on the wrong person. You can control one life .... yours. But when we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other people's’ lives rather than our own.

  • Comparisons often result in resentment; towards others and towards ourselves.

So what can you do to reduce the impact comparing yourself to other has for your confidence and progress?

Here are my top 5 ideas for action: